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#13: Symbols of Our Times with Jonathan Pageau

In his book “On Writing,” Stephen King says, “Symbolism exists to adorn and enrich, not to create an artificial sense of profundity.” The use of symbols extends beyond the literary world. Whether they are cultural, religious or psychological symbols are objects that are deeply ingrained in our psyche and help assign depth and meaning to our human experience that mere language cannot contain.  

On this episode, we explore symbolism and stories with Jonathan Pageau. Jonathan is a professional icon carver, writer, public speaker and the host of the popular YouTube channel, The Symbolic World. We talk about the role of art and how understanding symbolic language in religious stories, legends as well as blockbuster movies can help us navigate the modern meaning crisis. We dive into Zombies, The Matrix, feminine symbolism and more. Jonathan is the editor and a contributor for the Orthodox Arts Journal. He also teaches weeklong carving classes at the Hexaemeron School of Liturgical Arts.

Highlights:

  • Role of Art in Spirituality
  • Meaning Behind Zombie Stories
  • Symbols in The Matrix and Christianity

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Adrian:

All right. Jonathan, welcome to the show.

Jonathan Pageau:

Oh, it’s great to be here. It’s great to meet you.

Adrian:

Thank you. Thank you for coming on. Yeah, it’s my pleasure. Yeah maybe a place to start for us is to just draw the link between our previous conversation we had with John Vervaeke where we talked about cognitive science and spirituality and your name came up. You know, he mentioned that we might want to explore your work in the symbolic world, which is actually perfect timing because, you know, here we are, we have a chance now to go into that world. From an outsider kind of looking at some of your videos, I see that part of your goal is to unpack symbols or hidden patterns within stories. And you seem to do this both with religious stories as well as pop culture stories. And I know there’s lots we can dive into, but maybe as a starting point is to ask when did this start? You know, early on in your childhood, what was sort of your early spiritual life and how did you get into symbolism?

Jonathan Pageau:

I grew up in an evangelical world. My parents were Catholics who converted to the evangelical faith in the 1970s, late sixties, 1970s, in Quebec where I’m from, French Canada. There was a massive shift, you know, we call it the peaceful revolution, the quiet revolution, and a lot of people left the Catholic Church and some of those people, you know, discovered evangelical Christianity and that my parents went on that route. And for them it was really a way to free themselves from a very strict and, and misunderstood aspects of Christianity. But myself then when I was in my twenties, because I had an artistic tendency, I tried to join my faith and my art and it was very difficult to do that. First of all, because in the Protestant Evangelical Church, there is a quiet disdain of art, at least not in the church. Like some people will say, I know art is fine as long as it doesn’t come into the church and there’s no images, there’s nothing. And so I was struggling to find a place for being an artist in the church. But then also I was struggling to join, let’s say my, my faith with contemporary art because contemporary art is extremely cynical and it’s then the way that it represents the world, it’s always representing things. It’s as a commentary upon a commentary upon a commentary. It’s very removed from what it’s doing. Um, and it seemed like I just couldn’t fit it together. And so I finally decided to give up art and to kind of throw it all away. And as I was doing that, I was also looking and searching spiritually because it just felt like there was something missing in the, let’s say in the Christianity that I had learned in the Evangelical Church and you know, through different routes, different kind of… Going around reading all kinds of things, trying to figure out what was, what I was attracted to. I discovered mystical Christianity, Hesychasm, the mystical tradition of the eastern church. And then at the same time, I discovered medieval art and Orthodox iconography, which had a powerful symbolic language within it. And so it was that which kind of started everything. And my brother, um, who is going through similar things as I was, he really went down the route of reading a Jewish text and reading Rabbinical commentary and, uh, and even the Zohar and, and more kind of esoteric texts. And so in our discussions, you know, I was reading the church fathers in discovering all this medieval art and he was reading rabbinical commentary and we had these amazing discussions where we just realized…we realize all the patterns that were in the biblical text. Then how these patterns leaked out into the just the, you know, the architecture, the art, the shape of culture itself. And then finally, when that started to take shape in our mind and, you know, our minds started to be formed in that direction, then we could look at the world in general and see the same patterns within, uh, popular culture or anything. You know, it’s basically the symbolic understanding is basically the pattern which underlies the way we interact with the world. And so they, they, they are patterns, which are there in history which are there in our lives. Um, it’s easier sometimes to see them in stories because they’re so condensed, whereas, but they still, they lay themselves out even in the way we perceive the world. So that’s kind of how everything started and then slowly gaining that insight you could say, um, is what led me on this path.

Adrian:

That’s really cool. I want to ask you, was there a one pattern that stood out early that sort of was maybe more transformative than other ones that kind of sets you on that path?

Jonathan Pageau:

I think so because I guess I’m an artist and I deal in space in terms of what I’m making. I think that the basic pattern of center and periphery would be the basic pattern that then is the one I would hook everything onto. And I still do that today. And so I still tend to see the world in terms of a center. The center being identity, being a name essence, cause all these things. And then the periphery, which is the, uh, let’s say, the question you could say, you could call the center of the answering, you could call the periphery the question which asks, which is constantly asking the identity, you know, do I fit? Do I fit? How do I fit? What, what’s my place? And so understanding that, that, uh, that basic relationship of center and periphery is the pattern that I use. If you watch my videos, you’ll see I’m always using that same trope because you can, you can use analogies for that. We could use masculine and feminine, you can use a heaven and earth, but all those, you know, tend to manifest themselves in the world as this relationship between center and periphery.

Thal:

So, um, according to you, like it’s, this big question is coming to mind. According to you then, what is the role of art? Or what kind of, how does it serve a purpose in our modern world?

Jonathan Pageau:

Yeah you have to repeat the question. Sorry, I, it totally broke up. Go ahead.

Thal:

That’s okay. What is the role of art and how does it serve a purpose in our modern world? Because you said something very important about contemporary art and it being cynical and removed from the source. That’s really an important observation.

Jonathan Pageau:

Well, one of the things that happened, I think as I discovered art and I discovered under a different, a more traditional, you could say, understanding of art is I really attached myself to the medieval, you know, definition of art, which is that art is, we tend to think of art as being, the object. So we say this is art, you know, some, some object in the world. Whereas the traditional definition of art is that art is a skill. And so we still use that word today. We say something like the art of bread making or the art of, you know, the art of painting. But the art is not the object. The art is the, the, there’s a famous saying by Ananda Coomaraswamy, which is “the art always remains in the artist”, right? The art is the skill of the artist has to fit things together in a proper manner. And so in that, in that manner, art itself does not necessarily have a value in itself. And, and I think that once you start to realize that it frees you so much because people argue over what is art and what is not art. And, they somehow have this presupposition that for something to be art means that it would have value in itself, which is absolute nonsense. Uh, and so the way that I view art is that art is a, is an accumulation of skill and knowledge to fit things together. And then what’s important is what you use it for until what is the purpose of the object that you’re making? Um, and so, so once you, once you kind of see that, then all of a sudden a lot of the art that’s, that’s being made today lifted the contemporary art. You have to always ask yourself, what is the, what is the purpose of this art? And the answer for it, the answer that it is art is not enough. It’s not enough of an answer. The fact. And so you realize a lot of contemporary art is actually there to offer prestige. It’s there to, uh, to create an elite, a cultural elite, which understands the hermetic language. And then, you know, the masters don’t understand it. There’s a whole, uh, it also has a, it’s also there for financial speculation to create, uh, you know a pyramid of investments with, uh, with different collectors who, who make their art being be worth more. So all of a sudden the world of art opens up and you see, you ask yourself what the purposes are. And so then you, so for example, then myself, I had to ask myself then what am I going to make? What objects am I going to make? And that’s when the notion of liturgical art kind of opened itself up for me, which is, okay, well what is the highest use of art that could did, I could engage in let’s say, and then liturgical art just appeared as being the highest because it serves the purpose of, first of all, it is there to kind of show you something higher. It’s there to kind of connect you to something that transcends you, uh, connect you to God connects you to the transcendent. But it’s also there to unify a community. And so sacred art is always also very particular. So iconography has a language which is known by the people who are within the church. It is a, it is a communal language. And so engaging in that language is also unifying a community together and participating in the life of a community. Um, so I think that those end up, I would say that those are, in my opinion, the highest forms of art. Art that can show you the patterns, show you something, connect you to something higher, and then can also create a locust, participate in a language that creates a community. Um, to me that’s it,

Thal:

That’s an important question too that I sit with. Um, I like to write poetry and that’s also a form of art and, um, especially mystical poetry really moves me. And so that brings up the question too of yes, the role of art. There are all of the artists, but also, um, the state of the artist and at what state are you producing? Like you said, it’s about the work itself, um, at that state of being present in a specific way and, and, and the material that’s brought that’s being created. What kind of, um, I don’t know what, like we’re limited with language, but what kind of energy or feeling is the receiver getting from that piece of art?

Jonathan Pageau:

Right. No, I, I agree. I think that for sure in terms of ideally I think that we should, art can be a form of meditation in itself. Creating objects can be a way to, uh, you kind of enter into this zone, and you lose yourself in a certain manner in what you’re doing. You become extremely present. Um, and then the object that you make will reflect that. And so I think that that’s definitely let’s say the greatest art, especially like you talked about a mystical poetry or mystical, um, works in general. I think liturgical art in terms of iconography as well can have that same effect. Yeah. If you look at the icons of the trinity by Rublev or just the icons of the Russian icons that were produced in that time, you know, there’s this, you look at them and there’s this just amazing connection to something which is beyond you. And you hope that, that, uh, the state of the also participated in creating that. But I have to be honest though that sometimes it’s not the case. I, I’ve experimented this very particularly myself because as a, as an icon carver, it’s my job. You know, I get up in the morning and I go to the workshop. So some days, you know, everything is great and I’m in the zone and you know, I, I took time in the morning to pray and to meditate and I go there and it’s good. And there are other days where it’s the very opposite. You know, I just had a huge fight with my wife and I went to bed at two in the morning and I’m getting up and I’m all groggy. Uh, and then I, I work on this piece and I’m not there, you know. And the surprising thing is that sometimes it, sometimes it doesn’t matter. And it’s very strange. I’ve had people tell me, Oh, this, this particular icon you made is, you know, it, it really shows something more. It really connects you to something more. And I’m thinking, Oh, if you knew what state I was when I made that, you would not, you would not think that. So, so hopefully I think that sometimes too, artists can act as a, almost as vehicles despite themselves. And I think that, that’s true. And you talked to any, any artists and they know they’ve had that moment where it’s like they know that it’s not them because they’re a wreck of a person, but what comes out of them ends up being, um, being amazing. And so I think that artists can sometimes act as tuning forks to a certain extent, uh, to something which is beyond them.

Thal:

Absolutely. Absolutely. Sometimes I feel that way. Even I’m writing a poem, I’m like, what? Like, what’s going to come out? Sometimes it’s just, it, just the process of writing the poem takes me from a more disheveled state to a somewhat somewhat balanced state. Yeah,

Jonathan Pageau:

That’s wonderful if it can do that, that’s for sure.

Thal:

Yeah. Sometimes.

Adrian:

Jonathan, I want to ask you, um, you made a reference, I think in one of your videos I watched you mentioned story acting as symbolic compression and that kind of, I really like that framing. Um, and in connecting, connecting it to arts like art can have that effect. It’s a compression of, of patterns or symbols. Why is that helpful for someone who doesn’t look at the world that way? If we don’t look at the world symbolically, how might we make a connection to a modern world? Um, we are putting our finger on the crisis of meaning to sort of tie in all those themes.

Jonathan Pageau:

Well first of all, an interesting, an interesting thing is that both the word symbol and the word art have similar etymologies in terms of what they mean. The word art and from Latin means, you know, properly fitted together. That’s what, that’s what it means. And symbol means two things thrown together. And so for example, the, in Greek they used the word symbol to talk about a place where two rivers would come and join into and become one river. And so both of them have this notion of joining together, coming together. And I think that that’s what symbolism does is that it shows you the pattern. That’s what a pattern is. A pattern is a coherent fitting together of something which could be disparate. So you have all these disparate elements and when you look and you see how actually they come together and they become one thing, you know, I always tell people, how do, why do we think that certain things are one thing? It’s because we have, there’s something in us, there’s a capacity. We have to see unity to see a pattern, uh, in anything, even a physical object. I always use the example of a microphone. Like, why do we think that a microphone is one thing? Why do we, why do we contain it in a, in a category? And that’s because it has a purpose and it has a pattern. And it’s the same for everything. And in stories we can, we can see it more clearly because the story, because the story has to have a beginning, has to have an end. You have to know, you have to recognize it as a story. You know, how do we know that something is a story rather than just a bunch of jumbled, uh, information, uh, put next to each other and it’s because it has a pattern. And so that that recognition is there to help us view the patterns. Now the problem we have today is that we are, we are in this crisis, this meaning crisis. And the way to understand that in terms of the symbolic structure is that we are in the rim. We’re in the periphery, we are in the margin and we use those, those, those words. You can just listen to culture. And you’ll see that we always talk about is the exception. The margin, the uh, you know, the, the, the peripheral, um, the strange, the bizarre, the monstrous, all these, all these images are the ones that are taking over our discourse. And it’s because that’s where we are in the pattern of the story. We are, we are on the edge. You know, we are on the end and so does it in means that we are the, we are at the end of something? I don’t know what we’re at the end of a, of a, of a, of a cycle of civilization where at the end of something, um, now my trick, the way that I’ve been trying to help people to be able to see the pattern is to help them see those, the patterns of the margin. Because the problem, most symbolic writing or most mystical writing has been trying to get you to see the heart, to try to lead you to the heart. Uh, and so trying to talk about the heart as the, the garden of delight as, uh, as you know, the oyster and the pearl as all these, all this type of imagery, which is there to help you understand, you know, the, the top of a mountain, the, the or, or using sexual imagery in terms of the union of masculine and feminine. All of these, the, these symbolic structures are there to bring you into that central space. But the problem is that we’re so far from it that we can’t even recognize those images. And so what I’ve been trying to do is start with the monster. Start with helping people understand where we are. Why do we have all this imagery around us? Why do we have, why, you know, why are we obsessed with ugliness? Why are we obsessed with exceptions, with, uh, with things that don’t fit? Why is that? Why are those the things we talk about? Because those are part of the pattern too. You know, that part of the pattern is also that which doesn’t fit in the pattern. That’s part of the bigger pattern you could say. And so helping people understand that that’s where we are. I think that that’s the, that to me, that has been the way to then point back and say, okay, well now how can we understand that? Understand the role of the periphery of the margin because it has a role. But then how can we then move towards now back towards that sacred space? How can we recognize, the bars of the ladder that will bring us back into, back into the heart, let’s say. Um, so that’s been the way, and I think that it’s, it’s been successful in the sense that I see that people recognize that they can see when you point to it, then you point to the analogies between monsters and zombies and, and uh, and, and all this other stuff that’s going on. And also the confusion that we’re bound in. They can see, okay, yeah. That’s where we are. So now what do I do with that?

Adrian:

Can you, can you help unpack that a little bit? So, yeah. Using this Zombie as a perfect example, I know John, there’s a bit of convergence there too with, for Vervaeke and him writing the book about zombies and the meaning crisis. Um, but how is it a symbol of the contemporary nihilism that I’ve heard heard you speak about?

Thal:

Also in connection with that question, when you talk about center, I’m thinking heart and just the zombies. Are they creatures that have a heart?

Jonathan Pageau:

Right. That’s the idea. The whole idea of a, of a Zombie is that he doesn’t, that he doesn’t have a heart and not a hard, of course, not in the in a physical sense, but the word heart is just means center. You know, and, and when you read in text, when he talks about the heart, it’s talking about the center of the person, both physically because that’s where we feel our life is here, right in the, in the chest. That’s kind of where we experience breath. That’s where we experience, uh, emotion. Uh, all those things happen in that, in that space. But it’s also the center of the person in a more, let’s say, metaphysical manner, you know, the place where meaning and body meet and all that stuff. Um, and I think that that’s the Zombie is very fascinating because the Zombie is a, is one of the only modern monsters. Uh, it’s an, there’s the extra terrestrial is one of them, but the Zombie is really a modern monster. He, he appears in the 60s, you know, with a, with Ramero, although there were hints of what zombies of zombies before. The modern Zombie, the way we understand it as this decomposing, um, you know, walking dead figure really comes from the 1960s and it makes sense because that’s when the 1960s is when the meaning crisis started to accelerate. Um, and when people, you know, when things started to break apart, when faction started to fight over meaning over identity over also, um, let’s say we developed a pleasure culture, a culture that is based on our own passions where we were to give into your passion. That’s the purpose of life. And now we’re seeing the end of that. We’re seeing kind of the gutting of that myth that that giving into your passion or giving into pleasure or you know, living a life which is based on those values is going to provide meaning it doesn’t, it leads you into emptiness. And the Zombie is the, is the perfect example of that because the Zombie is pure desire and, and it’s reduced desire to the, the essence of what desire ends up being, you know, which is basically that the desire to eat life like to devour life and also to devour, um, the, the other person. Because when we give into our just pleasure, when we give it only to pleasure, we always objectify the person who is there to, to serve us our pleasure. Whatever it is, when, when our purpose is pleasure, uh, whether it’s in sexuality or whether it’s just, you know, buying things at the store or whether it’s getting what you want, uh, when you reduce it to pleasure, you’re objectifying the person in front of you, then that person is not a full person, is just a tool to get you what you want. And that the Zombie is the ultimate, you know, the, the, the radical example of that, you know, where human beings become food for this ravenous desire that they have. So that’s just one aspect. But there are many aspects of the Zombie. The fact that it’s decomposing the fact that it’s idiosyncratic. Um, you know, the Zombie, the ultimate punk rocker is a Zombie because, you know, every Zombie is different because they’re decomposing and so they, they, they’ll decompose in a different manner, but at the same time, the strangely are all also this giant mass. So it’s like these two opposites seem to coexist where each Zombie is idiosyncratic, but it’s also, there’s just this giant, you know, like massive wave of death that is coming towards you. So it’s every, almost every single aspect of the Zombie is there to show us the world, the world that we’re living in right now.

Adrian:

Yeah. It seems like, even if we don’t think we’re looking at things symbolically, there’s probably an intuition, which is why these films and these images are so attractive. You know, people love these TV shows and movies and, um, they really sort of resonate seemingly on an unconscious level.

Thal:

And it’s like, it’s, it’s an image of us really. When you said monster, like other monsters are just different alien images, but the Zombie is, is us basically.

Jonathan Pageau:

Yeah. Yeah. Well, I mean all the day. Yeah. All the monsters are somehow are both, you know, the, the, they kind of represent the edges of, the problem with the edge is that, did the edge is always tends to be… On the edge is also the other, right. When you get to the edge and you, you reach a place where it’s not you anymore. It’s like it’s something else. It’s, it’s this, it’s this other, it’s a, it’s either your enemy or your neighbour or your, or the unknown, you know, the stranger, all those, all those images are there to… The monster tends to manifest all of those ideas we have about the, this, this stranger, the idea of the strange in general. Um, but the Zombie, like you said, it somehow comes closer to quite a bit because the characters in the story, you know, in the story, the characters will become zombies. Most of them, you know, almost in every Zombie movie, the idea is always like, okay, so who’s going to get bitten and who’s not, you know, and, and so many stories end with almost everybody, you know, turning. And so, like you said, it’s a, it’s a monster story which shows us, which comes much closer to us, where it’s like, it’s, it’s potentially us. Who are these monsters more than anything else? More than like, you know, the, let’s say the lizard man or the wolf man or all these kind of these dark creatures or you know, a vampire. Well, the vampire also has a little bit of that too. Um, but in a different manner.

Adrian:

Do you have personal views of how this all will end? I mean, just going off what you just mentioned, like most Zombie movies kind of in the same way, it’s that you don’t beat em. You can’t beat the monsters [laughing].

Jonathan Pageau:

The Zombie story is frightening. Exactly because it is shows the problem of the ending. Um, in terms of this problem that we have, the meaning crisis, you know, there’s a, uh, there’s a trope in video games for awhile where, I don’t know if they still exist. I’m not, I’m not a Gamer, but I saw it when people were playing that they had, um, every game had like a Zombie mode where basically all it was was just wave after wave of zombies coming at you. And you can never win. You can’t, you can’t win all you need to do the, the way you, the further you go, like you, you survive how long you survive, but you can’t beat the game. It’s impossible. The zombies will just get more and more and more until you and until you die. And so it’s very dark. It’s a very dark image. Uh, but in terms of the Zombie story, you know, some friends and I, we’ve actually worked on a solution to a Zombie story and it was very existential for a friend of mine, someone that, uh, someone that reached out to me in, he was having horrible nightmares about zombies, you know, just over, over and over. He would have nightmares, a nightmare then. So he was really an existential thing for him to, to deal with that. And you wanted to to, to deal with the zombies. And so he wrote me and he, he also, he’s the one who actually told me about John Vervaeke’s book because he said, oh here you’re talking about zombies. I’m, yeah cause he was online looking for Zombie. He’s like, I’m looking for solutions to his problem. And uh, he said that he said that the Zombie that John Vervaeke’s book helped him to get rid of the nightmares but not completely. And the solution to the nightmare came in a discussion that we had and the solution was the idea of a Zombie who would a person who would, who would somehow accept to become a Zombie to save others. Um, and then the idea of a Zombie waking up. We’ve never seen a story about that. I seems like that would be the best story. And I’m surprised no one has done it yet. Where within the horde of zombies, like one Zombie wakes up from their, from their situation. Um, so that, that seems to be the idea of waking up in death. I mean, obviously that’s it. That’s the Christian story of the resurrection. And we, I think that that’s the only solution. I don’t know in terms of a society how it’s gonna play out. I don’t, I have to admit that I don’t have the greatest hope for how this, how the social narrative is going to play out. It seems to be getting worse. Um, especially with social media, it seems to, it seems to make things worse because it seems to exacerbate a lot of the conflicts that we have in our, in our culture. And the conflict is exactly an extreme of the, of center and periphery. It’s actually a fight between people who want to, who, who see identity as dangerous, um, and who want to, who want to deconstruct identity and those who see that identity is necessary for the world, but then go too far and want to, you know, you know, um, let’s say declare their identity as being, you know, the one that, that, that you need to hold onto and know that they’ll fight for their identity. And so it’s, it’s a very, it’s a very disturbing, it’s very disturbing way for things to be setting themselves up. And I don’t see, uh, to me the solution to me, the solution is a hierarchy. Um, and I know a lot of people hate that word because it has such negative connotations. But the thing, the thing about a proper hierarchy is that a hierarchy shows you, let’s say, shows you the distance you have from the center.

Thal:

It’s like a roadmap.

Jonathan Pageau:

But it also, exactly, the hierarchy also gives you the steps you need in order to go into the center and so to be able to understand where you are. But also to have, so it’s not, it’s not an opposition between center and periphery, but it’s rather like a ladder that connects the two together, like or radius that connects the center to the periphery. And it’s a path that you can follow and, and kind of move in. And so I think that that, that re-understanding hierarchy, uh, in a proper manner, uh, not, not just not necessarily hierarchies of power, which is the only ones we understand, but let’s say a spiritual hierarchy. That I think is the only solution. So, so that’s why if you listen to my talks, you’ll see that I am always talking about hierarchy and I’m always, always trying to also show the positive and negative aspects of all sides. And so show the negative aspects of the center, how the center can become tyrannical, but then also show the positive aspects of the periphery. How do we also need that question? We need that, that doubt in order, you know, for the world to exist in a normal, in a normal manner. So I think that that’s, to me, that’s the only, it seems like that’s the solution. But in terms of the society, I don’t see it coming on before a major crisis. Uh, sorry. [laughing]

Thal:

It sounds to me like hierarchy is part of that symbolic world that it, the symbolic world is the, is like the paradox or the bridge between the center and the periphery. And when you’re talking about center and periphery, I, um, for me, I’m thinking about the form and the formless, um, and just, you know, um, that it doesn’t have to be that or that, that it’s, it’s really, it’s reconciling both sides and that it’s, what we’re stuck in right now is dualities, which are illusory essentially.

Jonathan Pageau:

Yeah. Yeah. I agree. Especially when we don’t see how the duality comes together into something higher. You know, people often misunderstand or see a very limited image of the story of Adam and eve in the garden. And one of the understandings of that story is that when Adam and Eve ate the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, what was happening to them is that they were giving into duality and they were entering into a world of duality without unity. And that really then becomes the massive problem that’d becomes the, uh, the, the problem of the problem of everything. Uh, you know, and, and in Christianity, that’s why it’s kind of solved by love. Love becomes the manner in which both unity and multiplicity can coexist together. You know, because love does not, love, does not abolish difference. Um, it celebrates difference, but it also celebrates unity. It celebrates how difference can come together and be, be really one at the same time.

Adrian:

I love, I love to…this is all connecting and beautifully.

Thal: This is amazing.

Adrian:

I love your, um, your sequel to the Zombie story because, I’m thinking about the Matrix, right? So when you talked about waking up, and I think that’s sort of, uh, you know, uh, easily recognizable story that a lot of people know are familiar with. And, um, about an individual waking up to sort of a real, more real reality or you know, or differentiating what is simulation and what is what is truly real. And, but then also it brings the dualism, right, that duality that, that is perpetuated in that, in that movie. Um, would you care to, to, to unpack a little bit of symbolism in the Matrix. I know that was one of one of the videos I really enjoyed watching and seeing sort of the hidden patterns that are, um, they seem to do a good job of pointing towards.

Jonathan Pageau:

Yeah. Well I think that the the yeah, the Matrix is very fascinating because they really do set up an opposition. The Matrix is actually, at least the first movie, the second and third movie are such a jumble. It’s actually kind of hard to, to know what’s going on in those. He does, they do try to finish the whole, um, story with that kind of non dualistic finale where Neo joins himself to the source and then, you know, he, he tries to create a non dual, let’s say solution, but it’s difficult because it’s so jumbled. The stories are so chaotic and the second and third one, but in the first one for sure, there is really is a setup of a duality and it’s also an inverse hierarchy. People, it’s so funny how in the Matrix people tend to see, they tended to see spiritual symbolism in a way. I think they purposefully did put spiritual symbolism, but it’s an upside down spiritual symbolism because what’s real in the matrix is the body. That’s what’s real. What’s real is the, uh, this kind of nitty gritty, uh, existence of the flesh. And you know, everything related to the mind, everything related to two spirit is that’s the illusion, right? The illusion is the is the mind is the, uh, is the, let’s say the patterns of the world. Those are all illusions. And what’s real is, is the, uh, is the body. And so it’s an actually, it’s an upside down. It’s a revolutionary story and it’s presented as revolutionary in the, in the movie. It’s a revolution of the body against the, the mind. That’s what the Matrix is about. And that’s kind of, that’s what the modern world has been about, you know, especially since the, the 1960s. And I think that although I think that there are some interesting things in the matrix that that can help us to, uh, to understand some of the patterns. Most of it, most of the patterning is, is upside down. And I have to sadly say.

Adrian:

Perhaps it’s like an embodied spirituality. That’s kind of funny. I never even consider that. But like the flesh you world as, um, sort of a potential path, right? So, you know, it’s maybe not necessarily, um, just giving into passion. So you talked about, you know, the, the hedonistic way of living, but then just maybe celebrating, um, the somatic way of living. You know, cause we are often stuck in sort of left brain thinking modes. And we are disembodied, uh, yeah. In, in sort of a Zombie sense, but reconnecting with, with flesh and being reminded that we are walking around with these vessels and, you know, yeah.

Jonathan Pageau:

But I think that I, that that’s really, at least the Christian story, that’s what it’s, it ends up being all about the incarnation is really about finding the place, the reality of body, um, and the reality of body coming through it’s connection to that which transcend it. And that’s really the, in Christianity, we do not, we don’t view the body, the, you know, the world of phenomena as maya or as illusion. Um, but we, for it to be real, it has to be connected to the transcendent. That’s how it becomes real. And so it’s a, it’s a bit of a different, it’s been different from a lot of the eastern, or at least the, the, let’s say the cliche of eastern thinking that we, that we have in, in the west. Um, but in terms of the Matrix, I always tell people there’s the one scene that helps you to understand the difference between, I think real spirituality and the matrix is that when Neo resurrect at the end of the movie and he, he stands up, you know, and he looks out and he’s, you know, he’s, he’s kind of, he’s kind of full of what he’s going to be. It’s kind of attained this spiritual height that he’s going to attain. The only word that he says is “No”, that’s what he says. And I think that that’s really the difference between true spirituality, which says yes and, and the revolutionary spirituality of the Matrix was which who’s answered to kind of reaching enlightenment is to say no. Uh, so I think that that’s a way to see the difference. I think. Yeah,

Adrian:

There was another one. Um, we actually, it was so hard to select where like, oh, what are some pop culture references that I think people will really resonate. And another one for me was Moana [laughing]. It was actually, when you did a really cool, yeah, symbolic understanding of Moana, which I did not see it all. I mean, I really enjoyed the movie, but the moment you start pointing at those things, I got to rewatch it now and I feel like, yeah. Um, could you share a little bit about that trope that seems to be really popular about replacing the masculine with the feminine character? And I think you did that beautifully.

Jonathan Pageau:

Yeah, I think there’s, I think we have, there’s a very kind of sad trope in our culture, which is that we’ve recognized… let’s say we have these recognized patterns of masculinity and femininity. And at first it felt like, let’s say the feminist way of thinking was we need to get rid of these tropes. Like we need to everybody. Everybody is just a person, you know, like, we, we, everybody can do anything, that kind of thing. Um, but, but now it seems like there’s a, let’s say a one track, which is rather to take all the masculine tropes of a hero and just put a feminine body on the masculine tropes. And it’s, it’s very disturbing because what ends up happening is actually in a lot of movies what ends up happening, it, it looks like it’s actually a degrading of the masculine because in the stories you often see then the feminine character who, who is, has this, this role, you know, degrading a masculine character, you see it, you know, actually quite often. But what ends up happening in the end is that we’ve, we lose the value of the feminine. We use, we lose of the traditionally feminine, you could call it, you know, which is this whole idea of, of the question, this whole idea of, of, uh, of being the one who, the notion of the secret, this notion of the private, this notion of the, the, the hidden, all these, these, these important aspects that are part of symbolism, part of stories, you know, the mysterious, all these aspects are super important. Um, uh, and then, but then it’s like, we, we don’t, we’re almost degrading that by creating these characters that are just basically men with, with breast, uh, you know, cutting people’s heads off. I don’t, I don’t, I don’t totally, and, and it’s actually, it’s an interesting because it’s actually a sign of the times because in almost in all of western culture, there was this idea that on the edge of the world, you know, there existed these, uh, synchronistic nations, you could call them, synchronistic people and part of the synchronistic people were the Amazons, right? Like the Amazons where an upside down world where, you know, the, the, where all the women were warriors and they were fighting and usually there are no men or the men were just used to it to make babies and then they were kind of thrown out. Um, and so it’s very strange that we’ve come at a place where somehow we would, we would kind of glorify the, the, the image of that we would… at the same time, degrade the image of a strong man who would be a hero, but then elevate the same image with a feminine body. To me it’s such a weird contradiction. It’s like a, it, it’s such a jumble that it, it runs the risk of really confusing us in terms of our normal values in a society. I don’t know if that makes sense.

Thal:

It makes sense to me because, um, that’s something that I constantly think about. Um, especially with, uh, what’s going on right now. Like everything is, um, we’re living in a very charged times and um, it is important to situate feminism in a way where there is, um, we bring back the sacred and that’s where I feel like it will be the answer. One of the answers towards the meaning crisis. And we’ve had in the, uh, in our podcast, Jean Shinoda Bolen who, you know, wrote a lot around, um, the, the goddess mythology and that being a way of, of, um, or using the symbolic language to you know, portray the feminine in a more balanced way, the feminine and the masculine, not contradicting each other. Um, and to heal the feminine where you really is to heal the masculine and bringing both of, yet there is no separation. And, and, and your, your description of you know, how, again, limited by language, but how modern feminism or whatever, um, brings back the again, words, toxic masculinity and just dress it with a female body I think is for me as a woman and a woman of color is not the right answer.

Jonathan Pageau:

Oh, I mean, I, I definitely agree. I think that one of the things that I made my mission to do is to help people understand feminine symbolism in the most positive manner that is possible. And so, you know, I’ve done, I’ve written several articles on let’s say, the feminine and Christianity. I’ve done some talks on the mother of God on, on Mary and her role and her and the vision of her in the Christian story. Um, and also let’s say the role of the church itself as, as feminine. All of that is something that I’ve, that I’ve been trying to talk about because I do believe that one of the big problems that has happened is that the enlightenment, you know, for all the good that it has, it was a very masculine movement was, it was, it was in, uh, you know, it was a emphasis on reason, an emphasis on the public sphere, an emphasis on technological advancement. All that stuff was part of, let’s say from the 17th to the 19th century. And it led to the 20th century, led to the maniacal 20th century of totalitarian governments. And so I think that one of the things that have been lost has been a proper balance between the masculine and feminine. And so we need to look for ways to help to restore that, you know, help to restore the place of the, of the feminine. And, and I think that, I think a lot of people intuitively understand that. And I think that a lot of let’s say feminists movements intuitively see that and have a desire to find a way to kind of rectify that problem. Um, and, but I think they did often happens in a, in a confused and angry manner. And, and so it ends up not accomplishing what would we hope that it would accomplish. You know? And, and it ends up taking on that, that strange trope of, you know, a woman can do anything a man can do. And you’re like, oh, so you’re saying that that’s what’s valuable, right? You’re, you’re reaffirming that the only valuable thing is what a man can do. And then you’re saying a woman can do it. A woman can do it. Instead of saying, instead of looking at, at the feminine and looking at, at the wonderful aspects of, of, uh, of femininity and to, and valuing that and saying, this is extremely valuable, you know, uh, that the private, everything that’s related to the private sphere, everything’s related to the mystery, the secret, you know? Uh, you know, and, and also even the, the whole image of, I mean the mother is the most important thing in the world. If we didn’t have mothers, we have no, we would have no, we could actually probably we could, you know, theoretically dispense with pretty much with fathers and we would still, you know, for awhile have human beings. But without mothers there’s nothing.

Thal:

Mother is the heart, is the centre!

Jonathan Pageau:

And so, so I think, I think I, I think that that’s, you know, helping people really understand and relive feminine symbolism I think is, is a very important aspect of what I’m trying to do. That’s for sure.

Thal:

Yeah. And I was, as you’re talking about this, I was just thinking also about hagiography and the stories of saints and that’s something also that’s in the Sufi culture where there are many female Sufi saints that were leaders and had male students and a lot of them really, um, um, broke away and broke the rules, sort of, um, like hundreds and hundreds of years ago, which we see that as something modern. But really it has been going on for a long time. And I wonder how, yeah, and how is that connected to the Christian mystical tradition?

Jonathan Pageau:

Yeah, well, for sure there are many stories of Christian mystics, especially as, as coming, you know, as having immense authority no matter what their gender is. The perfect example is Catherine of Sienna, who was so powerful, you know, she basically decided who the pope was when there was a conflict between different popes. It’s like, oh, well let’s ask Catherine of Sienna to see and to help us decide who the, the legitimate pope is. And so there is, there is a sense, uh, but, but it’s, uh, usually the, let’s say the power that women play is usually a, a whispering like, uh, it’s like, it’s a, it’s a very, it’s a very powerful, it’s kind of, okay. So here’s a, here’s a, a text that I wrote. If people are interested, I wrote an article about this, I think I called it “Sacred Art and the Power of Women”. And so there’s a trope in Christianity in the history of Christianity, which is that the, the woman always converts first. Uh, and so you see that in terms of all the important changes in the story of Christianity. So for example, you know, the mother of Constantine was a Christian before Constantine, you know, uh, the first, uh, Frankish emperor, the first Frankish king who converted his wife was a Christian. Vladimir of Kiev though converter of the Russians, his mother was a Christian and it’s systematic, you know, and not only that, but the great saints. So Saint Augustine’s mother was a Christian, uh, the Cappadocian St Basil and, uh, Saint Gregory, their sister was a Christian before them. And so there is this notion of this secret entering into this, entering into the secret place first, right? This entering into, uh, into a place secretly, first, and then a kind of calling. Uh, and then it kind of called let’s say a secret whisper, and then the world changes, the world moves and then the men start to publicly move around that, you know, and that starts right away in the story of Christ were the first person to come to the empty grave are the women, the first person who sees the resurrected Christ is Saint Mary Magdalene. And then she goes, she sees the resurrected Christ and then she goes back and then she tells the disciples, you know, he’s risen. And so it’s like, it’s right there, right at the beginning of the Christian story. And then the whole history of Christianity follows that, that, um, that pattern, which is this, this kind of this secret entering into somewhere by a woman and then kind of public, a later public coming out, let’s say, of of the, the official, let’s say masculine, uh, king or whatever. Uh, so, so I think that that’s something that people are interested in, that it’s definitely something worth looking into because it, it shows us also what the power of the feminine to invite or to frame. That’s the way that I represented in my, in my article is that because the feminine is a question, it actually frames the answer. It’s like, you know, the mother of God, there’s a story where the first time that Christ does a public act, which is to change water into wine, his mother goes up to him and she says, there’s no wine. And in Christ, the answer of Christ, the answer is, you know, like, why are you tempting me? It’s not my time yet. And it’s like, what? Like what? Very strange answer. He’s basically saying, I’m not ready to die yet. But she’s asking him to just telling them that there’s not enough, that there’s no wine. And so what she’s doing is she’s saying, here’s the problem. Now you have to, you answer, you answer this problem. But she’s the one who’s framing the problem. And so that’s always the, that’s always, that’s the power of the feminine is to ask the right question. And then the, let’s say the masculine answer is within that frame and that if you think about it for a little while, you’ll, you’ll see how powerful that is. It’s actually, it’s actually very, very, it’s more powerful than then we would think at first glance because you know, you don’t answer something that you’re not asked. Uh, you don’t, you, you answer within the question.

Adrian:

For me, a powerful symbol actually was sticking to the image of the moon and the sun using sort of solar consciousness to represent what we commonly consider masculine traits, clarity, height, ascension, um, and the lunar side, right? The moon reflecting perhaps more feminine qualities. You mentioned mystery and question, you know, being able to navigate the darkness, right? The shadows. Yeah.

Jonathan Pageau:

Yeah and veiling and unveiling for sure the moon avails and unveils herself.

Adrian:

And, and yeah, just the idea of a complete human perhaps is also the idea of having a complete day requiring both the day Sun as well as the night. And yeah, it was helpful for me to stay away from the polemics right. To move away from sort of that fraught territory of identity politics and getting caught up with words, you know, offending people. It’s you know, sort of pointing towards, yeah, I need to work on both my solar characteristics as well as my lunar characteristics and, um, and, and sort of treat it that way as opposed to even using the word masculine or feminine because it can be, can be triggering.

Jonathan Pageau:

It can trigger people. Yeah. Yeah. Do whatever works, you know. But I agree. A full, a full person is an androgen is like the, the ultimate person is androgynous. And I think that that’s, that’s inevitable. And, and it’s represented very much in Christian symbolism in terms of Christ himself or Christ is, is a masculine character. But he’s often described as the total man as being, uh, androgynous and Androgyny we have to be careful because we have a weird idea of androgyny. Androgyny is not, is not confusion of the genders. It’s not, it’s not a kind of weird, uh, you know thing where you’re not sure that that’s, there’s a difference between an androgyny and the Hermaphrodite you could say. The androgynous one and the hermaphrodite one. And so the, the Androgynous person is someone who is fully what they are but is also also contains the other side. And so it’s like Christ is fully a man, but he also has within itself all that is feminine as well. And so he doesn’t appear as a confused being, but he rather appears as one that has integrated they’re opposite into themselves. I don’t know if that makes sense.

Thal:

It does. Yeah. And I want to connect it back to what Adrian was saying and also bringing in, um, sort of the Jungian language where there’s the solar consciousness, lunar consciousness and Christ Consciousness is probably the, the marriage of both in a way.

Adrian:

Yeah. Yeah. Unity or nondual. Right. Sort of a non dual state. So you’re not one or the other. It’s sort of a blend of both.

Jonathan Pageau:

Yeah. And I think with, I think that right now it’s interesting because the whole, the whole question of nonduality, I think it’s very important. I for sure, I think it’s extremely important, but when we’re in the margin, we really have to be careful not to confuse nonduality with confusion, like confusion and mixture is not the same as nonduality. And so that’s very, it’s very important to make that difference because we, you’ll meet a, you’ll meet a nihilistic, you know, totally scattered punk rock person who talks about nonduality. But what they really mean is that they’re nothing. And in the negative sense, right? They have no focus. They had no center. They’re scattered. They’re there. Then it’s like, like, yeah, you’re not dual because you’re just a mess. It’s like being a mess is not the same as, as ecstatic mystical non-dualism.

Thal:

That’s a very important distinction. [laughing]

Jonathan Pageau:

Well, especially with the new age, a lot of new age thinking, you know, sometimes that becomes confused and uh, and you meet extremely destroyed people who have become so in the desire to, to become non dual. Uh, and so, so we have to be careful.

Thal:

That’s very important. Yes. A lot of new age type of thinking unfortunately is just narcissistic wounding repeating itself over and over again. And, and that could be, um, yeah, dangerous place to go to. Yeah, absolutely.

Adrian:

Jonathan, do you have any, uh, any favorite myths, um, just as somebody who devotes a lot of time, you know, studying stories and sharing, you know, patterns within them. Is there one sort of, you mentioned the center and the periphery. I guess that’s one theme or one pattern that has kept resonating for you, but is there a story? Yeah. Is there a story that stands out?

Jonathan Pageau:

Yeah, I mean for sure. In terms of stories, you know, I mean, I think that my two favorite stories as they kind of play up against each other is really the story of the creation in the Bible up to the fall. Um, and maybe even up to Noah, let’s say that, that, that like slide, I think that that contains so much, there’s so much in that story and then the story of Christ as an answer to that. So you have these two stories that kind of play off against each other. I would say that if you listen to my talks, you’ll see that I’m constantly going into the story in genesis into the story of creation and the fall and then then going into the story of Christ and trying to show how they relate to each other. Um, but in terms of, um, that’s the, in terms of, of a secular stories, I definitely really enjoy fairy tales. I love to think about fairytales because a lot of them sometimes are, are so strange, you know, they’re so weird, you know, like the story, I did a video on puss in boots for example. You know, that story is so odd. There’s, when you see it on the surface, it just looks so weird and uh, but somehow it’s survived until today. And so it means that there must be deeper in it. And so what I love to do is to take the fairy tales and to break them down to show how they’re symbolically coherent and that that’s been kind of a favorite thing of mine where you see something. So like Rapunzel, I did a video on Rapunzel just recently where it’s like, what does that story of why does she have long hair and why she, you know, she’s up in the tower, which has this weird long hair and, and you know, the, the prince climbs up, but then she gets her hair cut and until it’s like it. And then also she wanders into the wilderness and we don’t even hear you often in the story about how the, how the, witch died. It doesn’t really matter. But you know, then she cries on him and he restores his sight. And it’s so strange, but it makes total sense. It’s completely coherent in terms of, uh, in terms of its symbolic structure. It just, it just seems odd to us at first glance. So that’s something that I love to do is to dive into those types of stories.

Adrian:

All right. Just to close. Is there anything you can suggest listeners as far as, um, maybe sharpening this faculty this ability to see things perhaps in a more symbolic way outside of just merely sort of studying the story? Are there any practices maybe you engage in that are, that are helpful for that reframing or shifting our perspective?

Jonathan Pageau:

Well, I think that being part of an actual tradition is important because you know, when you’re, let’s say I’m, I’m eastern Orthodox and, and there is a coherence which sets itself up not only in the stories but then also in the liturgical year. So what we celebrate during the year, how it follows the pattern of the year, and then what we will sing during those years, what icons we use during the feast. And so what it does is it really creates, and also the architecture of the church and how the images in the church fit with all of that. So what it does is it creates a puzzle, which is bigger than just a bunch of stories that are disconnected. It’s actually a coherent world. You know how we talk about people who write, talk about world building, you know, where you need to have this kind of coherent world where let’s say the liturgical year and everything that comes with it, all the, all the art is a, is this coherent world. And so you can, you can get a lot of insight by meditating on, on that and also being within it instead of just looking at it from the outside. It’s very different when you’re just looking at a story from the outside. Um, it’s different when you’re in the story and you’ve actually taken on the story as your own and you’re participating in it physically. So I think that that’s something that I definitely think is important in terms of, of understanding symbolism. But then, you know, there, there are some, there are some books that you can read. I think there are some church fathers you can, you can also read some of the church fathers. My brother, I told you a little bit about my brother. He wrote a book called the Language of Creation last year. And, uh, I would say it’s probably in my, I mean, I’m not objective obviously because he’s my brother, but I, I think that it really is a very beautiful, concise book that can help you understand symbolic structures and, uh, and he uses the Bible as the, as the core, but he’s actually really talking about cosmic and psychological structure so you can, uh, it can help you to understand all kinds of stories when you, when you read his book, so..

Thal:

Yeah, what you’re saying is making me think about how, how we can view our life as a journey and that we are the hero or the heroine and we’re on a journey and that the symbols we’re not looking at them objectively through a microscope, that it’s within us and it’s around us. And that’s how we can hopefully create some type of meaning.

Jonathan Pageau:

Yeah, I agree. And the meaning, you know, once you engage in that way, no, you’re surprised to see the patterns, like you said, in your own life. It’s not just in the stories outside, but you start to notice in your relationships, you know, in the way that things manifest themselves to you, let’s say you start to see that they do so in patterns as well, and that you’re also part of a story. And so that’s something that’s actually, I mean, it’s, it’s wonderful when that happens, when things kind of come together and everything fits.

Thal:

And that unfolds really regardless of what tradition the person decides to follow, it just unfolds naturally.

Jonathan Pageau:

Yeah. I mean, for sure. We are all here. We all are in those patterns, no matter where we are in, no matter where we do, uh, you know, the question is where in the pattern we are and hopefully we can move towards the heart. That’s what, at least the hope.

Thal:

Absolutely. That’s amazing. Yeah. Thank you,

Adrian:

Jonathan. That was a pleasure. Thank you so much.

Jonathan Pageau:

Okay. Yeah, it was great to talk to you guys. I wish you wish you all the best with your podcast as well. I hope that, uh, it’ll, it’ll, uh, it’ll continue.

#11: Living Your Personal Myth with Jean Shinoda Bolen

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” – Mary Oliver

On this episode, we have a conversation with Jean Shinoda Bolen, M.D., a psychiatrist, Jungian analyst and an internationally known author and speaker. Jean is a Distinguished Life Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association, a former clinical professor of psychiatry at Langley Porter Psychiatric Institute at the University of California Medical Center. She has been a board member of the Ms. Foundation for Women, the International Transpersonal Association, and the C.G. Jung Institute of San Francisco. She is the author of thirteen books in over ninety foreign editions.  She is an NGO Permanent Representative of the Women’s World Summit Foundation to the UN. She is in three acclaimed documentaries: the Academy-Award winning anti-nuclear proliferation film “Women – For America, For the World,” the Canadian Film Board’s “Goddess Remembered,” and “Femme: Women Healing the World.

Highlights:

  • Finding Purpose in the Second Half of Life
  • Archetypes in Every Person
  • How Children Carry the Un-lived Parts of Their Parents

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Full Transcript

Adrian:

Wonderful. I’m so glad this worked out.

Thal:

How are you?

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

I’m good. I emailed you, I didn’t know if you had a chance to read that. I realized that I was saying more in it than the questions I asked you on the phone.

Adrian:

I just had a read. Um with Mary Oliver and also a little thing of Lao Tzu. Yeah. Very nice.

Thal:

Oh she’s one of my favorite poets. Um, her passing away was a, um, it was like big news for me two weeks ago.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

It was like losing a friend.

Thal:

Aw. Yeah. She helped me through some very dark times.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

There’s, there’s the nature part of what she writes about, but then at the end of several of her poems, she just says something so wise.

Thal:

Yes.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

So are we being recorded as is right now or what? What do we do? Please help.

Adrian:

So we are officially recording, but we, we can officially welcome you to the show. So thank you for coming onto our podcast.

Thal:

Thank you.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

Well, it’s an adventure always to have a potential depth conversation with people who are interested in such things. And I never know where the conversation will go. And I often feel it in such conversations, words come out that have never been, never come out before and link things together. So there’s an energy field between people. Uh, I know in my office as a Jungian analyst, the geometry of the space, it’s like two equal chairs and, and in between. And the invisible in-between is really the larger self or our soul. It’s a Soul space essentially. And, and a creative space because again, it’s just, it’s a conversation between two people, but it’s different than what you and I are doing because what I do in my office is the other person provides the information and the dreams and the thoughts and the angst and the losses and, and I receive and comment and back and forth. So I’m hoping that out of this intriguing sounding, program that you have, Soulspace. I actually responded to that. I thought oh, I know about different varieties of Soul space. Let’s see where this conversation takes us.

Adrian:

Well it’s a real honor. I, you know, when I, when I reached out on email, I didn’t know, you know, how busy you might be and whether you’d agree to come on. So this is a real honor for both of us to have this conversation with you.

Thal:

Thank you. Yeah.

Adrian:

maybe, um, I’m thinking actually right now what I would love to, to hear from you is actually how your journey began. I’m really curious what you were like as a young girl and how that evolved into, um, just early in your career and how your path brought you towards the work that you’ve done, the books that you’ve written and, and your current life. So it just the early experiences and um, I know it might be difficult to kind of condense the story, but I’d love to hear some of that.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

Well some of that it comes to me quite easily because I had been working on a memoir based book, which means I’ve thought about some of these questions that you raised. And my ancestry is Japanese American. Both of my parents are born in the United States of Japanese ancestry. So when World War 2 broke out, every person of Japanese ancestry on the west coast was to be rounded up and put into relocation camps or concentration camps. I had a very, uh, I had very good parents, uh, who knew something about making choices and, and gut and take going on paths that needed to be go going on in my, and my father and mother then worked to get us out of the state of California ahead of the martial law that Japanese Americans came under. And consequently, I didn’t, I wasn’t put in a concentration camp. They are referred to that. They were called relocation camps. Basically. They were camps in the desert with uh, armed guards and, and, uh, uh, hastily built tar and wood and paper barracks, really. So instead I left the state and we went to New York to Kew Gardens to Grand Junction, Colorado, to, to Blackfoot, Idaho, to Denver, uh, during the war years and returned back to California as soon as it was possible to come back. And that meant the war was over. Well, what has this done on many different levels is that one becomes as, as you might be as apparently Asians of… in Canada, you, and yet there’s this place of being, of the words I came across in my time in becoming a psychiatrist, somewhere along the line is the idea of positive marginality that you can, you can be with other people who are not like you and yet you’re not marginalized in the negative way. Because I was this upbeat kid, always. I was. I came in privileged to be loved and privileged to, well, just come in maybe with a sunny disposition. So I became in, in going from elementary school to elementary school during the war years, uh, I was accepted and yet, I was different. And so the consequences is that you kind of be in the space of, of positive marginality, which you then are able to see much more clearly because you don’t just drop into being unconscious with everybody. You actually are aware that you are different and yet it’s perfectly acceptable and the differences help you to make your way and to appreciate what acts on you and what is in you. And actually that’s a way into describing something about why I would have the vision I have of thattThere are archetypes in us, there are like talents are, I mean they are, they vary in strength and they act through us whether we know it or not. And if they are acceptable then we blossom. But what if what you have in you is an archetype that is not welcomed in your particular family or culture. Then you have… You’re caught between two. We all are between two, the archetypes in us and the projections and expectations on us. And essentially what the work of depth analysis is, is to find out from what the dreams are saying from what your life has taught you so far something about who you really are. And that combination of who you are inside and what you were expected to be outside. Being the conflicts that created growth experiences or real difficulties.

Thal:

It’s very interesting when you mentioned positive marginality. Um, I mean I am someone that comes from different backgrounds, um, African, Middle Eastern, Muslim, and I’ve been going through my own Jungian analysis the past two years and I’ve been thinking about those things and, and reading your books and just thinking about Jungian analysis and how it can also help people who are marginalized, but that there are not a lot of people that have explored that path that are from my background. So just listening to you, so reaffirming. Thank you.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

You’re welcome.

Thal:

Yeah

Adrian:

I have to ask you, so which archetypes for you were emerging that maybe didn’t play nicely with the surroundings when you were growing up? You talked about possible friction or conflict. Where there any that come to mind?

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

Well the archetype that has been my strongest one is Artemis. Artemis is the Goddess with a bow and arrow and the moon. I mean, she’s the Goddess of the hunt and Goddess of the moon. And she is really the Goddess of Sisterhood. Um, she’s the only Goddess that all of her mythologies has a great deal to do with what the women’s movement is up to really because she looked after young girls, um, and during the time that they were under the protection of Artemis, they could, they could be free like an Artemis girl. They could, they didn’t conform to, um, early marriage and things for that one year that they were under her protection after which they were had to live up to conformity and all of that. But Artemis is the kid who starts out with this innate, uh, watching say boys allowed to do things that girls cannot do. The Artemis puts her hands on her hips, so to speak, at four years old and says, “that’s not fair!” There’s a sense of equality, there’s a sense of competency that is pretty innate. And in an Artemis person who also likes to go off the beaten path and has an innate sense of, of nature. Um, I was realizing my privilege, it is to appreciate nature. I was just in Santa Fe, New Mexico, and every time I go there, I think I should come here more often because it’s, there’s something of nature there. The sky, the vastness of the sky and the quality of the air and the panoramic views that art for me, it’s a soul energy field as where I live. I’m talking to you right now and let’s see now at over the Bay, I live on the south side of Mount Tamalpais in north of the Golden Gate Bridge and, and it’s beautiful. And there’s something about the archetypes that respond to beauty, and this is another one. This is Aphrodite who is mostly known for being the Goddess of love and beauty in ancient classical mythology. But like as patriarchy got more and more, um, judgemental about women and women’s sexuality, she got to be, she went from what was considered, uh, she was considered awesome and revered. Now you don’t usually think of Aphrodite as revered but in ancient days she was, and, and as Goddess of love and beauty, it was not just sensuality of the body, but it was appreciation of the sensuality of the world really in general. Moved by beauty. Not everybody is moved by beauty, but if you have the archetype in you, you are, and what happens with an archetype is you drop deeper into your soul space. That’s what the archetype does. Otherwise, you, you live, in Jungian terms, the persona. The face you wear for the world. And that is what needs to be acceptable to many families and cultures. Can you wear a persona that works? Well, I was able to do that. Um, I, I didn’t come up against, well, I was well brought up so I behaved myself. So it, and it didn’t innately just, uh, live from my archetype. There’s some people might and might get in for trouble with it as well. So archetypes in us, are patterns, like every talent is a human talent. Not Everybody has the same amount of artistic talent or, or mechanical talent or athletic talent. They vary their gifts. So I think of archetypes as basically as similar to the gifts that we come into and we either have an opportunity to develop them or we don’t depending on the possibilities of their main culture.

Thal:

Um, I think this is very important for us to understand as we had approached you where I’m coming from this new generation and there’s a lot of clashes that are coming up everywhere. So you talking about the role of myths and archetypes and helping us to drop in deeper and understanding ourselves better. I mean, even considering all the, um, the current resurgence in feminism and a lot of, um, sort of reactionary behavior, which a lot of it is also coming out of wounds that have not been, um, like not understood or not addressed. So, um, so how do you, how can we integrate mythology back into our lives? Um, in our current times?

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

The archetypes, uh, are patterns, human patterns in us. They conform to mythology in many ways, but they exist without us knowing any mythology whatsoever. It’s what you know deeply in yourself that’s true for you and such things as what are you doing when you lose track of time? What are you involved in when you are so absorbed in whatever it is that it seems like three hours have passed like 20 minutes or 20 minutes has dropped you into a timeless zone. I mean, there’s something about only the person who lives in you can know what truly deeply feed your spirit. Uh, what is a soul space? And they are related to the archetypes and the sense in Jungian psychology is first if there is that persona, uh, that many mothers are, are especially concerned about that our kids, their kids go out in the world and are well brought up and acceptable, et Cetera, which helps the child to navigate the early world. But persona is the layer in its, it’s the, in theater, there used to be in ancient Greece, the smiling face and the frowning face representing the faces of the …. And they used to put on masks and go onto the stage. A persona is a mask of sorts. And if you, if you have a persona that really reflects you, then what you inside and the mask is not mask like, but if you have to conform to a culture or family that expect certain things of you, no matter what, then you create a persona that is not exactly who you are. And the more you identify with a persona, the more distant you get from what you are inside. So there’s persona, then there’s ego and that’s the part of us that that makes choices and speaks from the word I. And then there’s the deeper level of the archetypes, which, and these, especially the archetype that has to do with, with um, spirit or soul, or what Jung call the archetype of the self. See human beings do seem to have an affinity … an affinity for divinity essentially, that there is something in the human being that has worshiped forever as far as back as we can see images on in caves from thousands of years ago. I was just learning a bit about Mot, the ancient Egyptian goddess. And uh, you know, they go back thousands of years before the, the Greek gods goddesses. And it seems as if human beings have had a sense of awe and then from that, worship and then they’d been, the question about you, whatever it is, it is, divinity is so much broader than a human mind can wrap around that, that somebody will have a genuine experience of divinity and then thinks that that experience is the experience. And then if it’s a powerful male running something or other, you have a patriarchal religion that says this is what God is. And, and one of the interesting things about words and all is that when you own the words, someone can have a experience of divinity and not consider that it was until much, much later because when they were growing up, God was defined as this and the idea even of goddess, that there’s a feminine aspect of divinity, not in many religions. So what do you do with the experience that you have inside when the world outside has no words for it? One of the things is the more you have words for something, the more you can feel it growing in you and I had um, my own life trajectory has a lot to do with, with coming in touch with a sense of, of whatever God is and feeling, uh, the mystery of it. I mean, interestingly the word mystery, it comes from the word mystes, which in ancient Greece was the word of the initiates, the initiates who entered the Eleusinian mysteries and had a sense of, of, of a goddess actually then no longer feared death. And that is one of the things that actually does seem to happen to people, especially as they grow older and connect with soul inside in a sense of divinity out. That it doesn’t seem to be well okay, well there’s something on the other side that there, and this is the basis of all religions. Mostly all religions… And so each of us has accessibility to this. We don’t need a particular gatekeeper, which mostly most of the religions seem to feel and insist that they are the gatekeepers. They are the only way to the truth when built into each of us is our own ability to experience depth and soul and love for example. Um, I remember when when explaining things to little children. How do you explain God? Well, how is it that they know the word love? If you say God is love, oh that seems to be much more easy to grasp and yet that is just as difficult to describe to someone who doesn’t know it as it would be to describe God.

Adrian:

Yeah, that was beautiful. A lot of things come to mind when you were just saying that, um, I think it was Michael Meade where I heard him talk about the pathless path and how at some point we have to drop whatever maps that were helpful initially and go on her own individual quest. Um, what would you offer as guidance perhaps for a lot of young seekers who are maybe self initiated, you know, finding themselves in times of transition and kind of confused and overwhelmed. Um, to be honest with, with the information overload that we have with the Internet and access to, you know, as much knowledge as we want. How do we, how do we receive guidance and, and make sure that we’re discerning. You know, I think discernment is part of that question too.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

The Greeks had two words for knowledge, logos, meaning the mental apparatus, the intelligence and gnosis spelled with a g, like the Gnosis, but pronounced gnosis and knows this is what you know in your bones. So what to know at the soul level which is some kind of inner certainty or inner compass that says, oh, I feel at home here. I trust this person. And often we need to find some blessed solitude, actually, that’s how you kind of find your way. And one of the things about current culture is a bombardment of emails and there’s hardly any time unless you choose it to be by yourself or by yourself in nature. Um, and conversations. Who is it that you’re comfortable with without words? Um, where do you go to find peace? Where is your soul space? Now those are, that’s a gnosis thing. The intelligent mind, well, you know, can give you options and things, but only when you get to a place that feels safe, home, peaceful and then you stay in it. I didn’t do it. Meditation helps people who otherwise wouldn’t even create a space, but it’s also very natural for us, unless we have some heavy judgment in our head. And then the idea of concentrated meditation often allows a person to be in a space without the critic or the judge or the whatever that that makes internal comfort difficult. So there’s gnosis, trusting what we know in our bones about, about what really matters.

Thal:

This is definitely an important reminder. It’s like tuning into our internal compass to, to guide us.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

That’s true. And the poetic side of us is the gnosis side, by the way. Left brain right brain. Left brain knows a lot and it has details then it, and it… but it’s poetry that speaks to what we know inside, at a soul level. And so when, when I heard that Mary Oliver had died, it did really feel that I had another friend who died. Now, I’d seen her in person in San Francisco when she first made her first trip out of her life at Massachusetts in the, she read some other poetry and she was interviewed on stage. So I did have a sense of her in person, but mainly I knew her through her poems. And, and every once in a while there are words that come from her poetry that just is such soul knowledge. Um, there was one poem in which she wrote, and I may be paraphrasing cause I didn’t set out to memorize your poems. It’s more that they sort of sunk in. And so I can have access to some of the lines. It really has meant something to me. But one that said, you do not have to be good. You do not have to walk through the desert for a hundred miles panting, you only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves. Now… What is that? What is that trusting…knowing…not confused part of us that we came into this world with and we got it diverted by so many dysfunctional families and dysfunctional cultures and especially for boys or is more than girls are trained to not be vulnerable. Girls, we make friendships through our vulnerability and from sharing things. Boys don’t. And so they’re much more apt to be cut off from the poetic side of their souls, or if they’re smart enough, they know to keep it sacred and not share it because somebody will belittle them, or will make fun of them. So they learned something who and with whom can they share their soul space? And often it is with a woman or if it’s a gay man with finally meeting another who has a soul space, as much as, as his own. So there, there is that. And then, then I’m remembering, uh, in one of my books, uh, Crossing to Avalon, I have a poem by Mary Oliver written, right, the whole poem is right in the middle of it. And it’s the one that is called The Journey. And it begins one day you finally knew what you had to do and began. That is when you start your individuation journey, when you listen to the inner compass. And I’m remembering also a quote from a man who rose to the top of, uh, his corporate work, he became head of Newsweek when Newsweek was very popular. And he wrote a line that said, he talked about the ladder that he climbed to the top and he got to the top of the ladder. He was made editor and chief of Newsweek and he said, I found the ladder had been put up against the wrong wall.

Thal:

Hmm.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

Because climbing a ladder is sort of like going on a journey and, and then, uh, there is the end of the poem in Blackwater Woods in which Mary Oliver says, to live in this world, you must learn to do three things: to love what is more mortal. So hold it against your bones as if your life depends upon it. And when it comes time to let it go, to let it go. That is real depth, soul and psychological wisdom. And, and uh, what I have been doing workshops, um, past couple of years, I haven’t, not on my schedule right now, but I took a line from a poem called A Summer Day in which she ends up saying, doesn’t everything die at last and too soon? Tell me, what do you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? And I’ve taken the phrase “your one wild and precious life” as a way describe to describe, you know, being on your soul path. Individuating. Living the life you were meant to live. Um, as, as uh, with “wild” being what you came in with. I mean, uh, uh, wild is, is like a forest of virgin forest. Nobody has logged it. Why are these your natural instinctual itself? And so when you are in your second half of life, especially when you’ve lived the life that you were supposed to live and either succeeded at it or failed at it, I don’t know. But in the second half of life is when you start to wonder what really matters to you and will you have the courage to follow your heart. And courage comes from the word cor, meaning heart. And that goes back to what was innately you. That’s the wild part. What will you do with your one wild or you could say archetypal that would fit too, your one archetypal wild and precious. Precious is something you also have to really value that, that who you are and the energy you have and the time you have and the words you use. This is, this is all you have. Time goes by so fast. She, you really get to know it. As you get older, it’s zip! And you get to where you wonder, how did I get this old so fast? That happens through where I am right now. How did I get to be this old? Let’s see, I was born in 1936, so I’m, um, I’m 80… um I don’t like that. [laugh]

Thal:

[laugh]

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

So, so and yet there’s a perspective on this.

Thal:

Hmm. It’s just amazing listening to you, you know, um, you’ve, you’ve led such a soulful life, so it’s so inspiring for us. Um, just listen, listening to you talk. Um, but you bringing up poetry is so important because, I’ve always felt that there was a poet in all of us. And um, when I was younger I started writing poetry. I published some poetry, but then I started the path of the academic path. And I, um, uh, I have a degree in English literature, my masters and I found that sort of the academy like academic path moved me away from my soul writing and now path of yeah. And, and now that I’m in my, um, hopefully individuating and in the path of healing, I’m going back to poetry and hopefully integrating that side of myself.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

When you listen to this or I do as an analyst to someone telling me something that is deeply meaningful and food are there and they have a vocabulary such as you would have with your academic background, what comes out is like poetry because it’s so true. And uh, in it unedited, we all tend to edit our stories as we tell someone else. But when you’re in analysis and you reach a deep place and you’re talking from your soul level about how awful it was or how deep it was or what the loss was like, it is like listening to a poet. Now I need to wait and stop for a moment because it says low battery. Okay. I need to go get a plug.

Thal:

Sure. No problem. No problem.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

Okay. It’s good now. I didn’t think it would run out of juice, but it, you know, did.

Adrian:

That’s okay. That’s a good catch. Maybe it’s just the charge that we’re… Coming through our conversation. Jean, you talked about young boys. I mean, I can’t help it, you know, I was listening to you carefully there y’re about growing up in, in modern society and how we’re often encouraged not to be in our bodies, you know, the feeling body and be receptive to this poetic language. Um, and so for me, this is a very new territory. You know, it just within the last year, maybe two years to really explore, um, the essential aspects of being, you know, dropping out of my mind and the intellect, but not to demonize it. Right. Recognizing that’s been a gift along the way. Um, I love to hear you talk about the embodied spirituality. I mean, we, the new age movement has, has brought, you know, lots of different versions of spiritual life. And I feel like there’s something very important about highlighting the embodied spiritual path.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

Well we get to be so out of touch with depth of body and the depth of body being not only having feelings but like the heart is usually considered in the body. Certainly and yet there is the heart chakra or the heart center, which is in the same general area as the physical heart. But the more you understand and feel in your body, what that Heart Chakra is responding to, you learn something about what really matters to you and you’re move by it and over years what happens is you either constrict it and lose touch with what is meaningful to you or you find it being like a receiver that grows over time, that becomes larger because you are, you can love more, you can feel more, you can, you can have a sense of connection with more that is. So those are the, those are, that’s an embodied part of us. But when you go out into the world as a little girl or little boy and you’re, especially if your family expects you to be an of themselves and not who you are, that’s where things really get into difficulties. Because if you are supposed to be living out the unlived part of a parent or to be socially acceptable because it’s a tight issue for them, then as you go out into the world you need to conform to be that person. And if you’re a little girl or little boy, it’s like there are certain qualities that that if you’re an extension of some hope for… if you’re a cute little girl, then that may be really emphasized. Or if you’re a bright little boy, that might be really emphasized. Um, and then you enter a culture of school and school is interesting because when you go into kindergarten or first grade and there is a difference between the school yard and inside the school room. And especially for the little boys, the bigger boys that are a year or two years ahead of you are bigger and stronger and they have… especially if they’ve come from homes in which they have been bullied, what kids do, boy, kids especially is they turn around and they identify with the aggressor at home by beating up on little boys who they can beat up on. And so a little boy with some sense of what you need to do to manage on the school yard learns about you go along to get along.

Thal:

Hmm.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

And so that’s why you have like boys watching the bully picking on a kid and nobody speaks up because you don’t want to be identified with the kid is being made fun of. And you just might, you know, and this, this pattern is actually is sort of, it was difficult to sort of call that patriarchy, but it is, it’s exactly the same as a later on. I mean, I saw the movie Vice recently, about Dick Cheney and the kinds of things that went along in Washington DC and it was like bullies beating up on weaker people. And the culture of the school yard begins that story where the boy learns to go along to get along to not challenge authority. And what happens is if they didn’t have, if a little boy kept saying things that were not welcomed. He often feels a lack of worth as he grows up too. And one of the things that little boys seem to have, um, difficulty with is saying the truth about how they really feel about something. Fortunately, often they can do that at home. Uh, with some families, uh, they also, if they can have a good friend, I think it’s very hard to be kind of just one of the kids without a really good friend going through elementary school for girls as well. And yet, you know, it is through… The question is, if you have suffered as a child and nobody gets through life without suffering, you’ll get your, your share of suffering all along the way. But what, what you do, will it grow you? Will it grow you to have more compassion for other people and for yourself or do you deny it and want to disidentify with anybody who is suffering something that you suffered from in the past?

Thal:

Yeah. All that you’re saying is so deep. It’s resonating deeply within us really. Um, and you talk about the young boy and the young girl, um, I realized that part of my healing is to heal the feminine within me, but it’s also to heal the masculine. Um, I know that it’s very, it’s using dualistic language when I say feminine and Masculine, but the truth is, um, they’re inseparable to heal the feminine is to heal the masculine and to heal the masculine is to heal the feminine. I mean,f I would love to hear what you think about that.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

There’s an interesting concept in near here in psychology about the tension of opposites. That the reason for often describing masculine and feminine as being separate and different is to be able to kind of label qualities. People, human beings seem to like to label things, but they’re all part of the continuum of being a human person essentially. So what is allowed on that big continuum? And uh, what Jung described as masculine and feminine in the unconscious, he called Anima and Animus. Uh when like when you’re a girl who, uh, girls these days are able to become whole people much easier than boys, at least in the United States for North America where education is so important and competition. I remember when my daughter went out for soccer at eight years old, you know, that’s a different … Teaching a little girl how to play soccer, play as a team member like competitively she is learning something, about physicality about teamwork and about the will to win, which is usually considered animus or male side. And, and um, education itself develops the whole right brain, left brain. And the more she goes up the the education ladder and in develops that side of herself and get some authority through that, the more she is, it isn’t her like, like there’s a place where you think “hey listen it isn’t my animus that’s doing the thinking. I am thinking clearly myself!” because you, you understand what the animus is when it takes you over, when is not who you are, when you are being defensive or something and, and you get out of relationship with the person you’re talking to because you really had been, there’s been stimulated. So then you are in your animus. I could recognize… I used to recognize and recognizing don’t do it as much when I’m in my animus versus when I’m just being me thinking clearly even though that is not probably my primary, uh, uh, I think I’m more feeling type than a thinking type, but the thinking type really get’s educated along the way. You cannot go through all the education I’ve had without really doing justice with the thinking type. And then that had happened then it happens to be who you become rather than some autonomous part of you taking over. That’s one of the things that are of value, to have an understanding of a concept that you could actually watch happen in yourself rather than watch happening in somebody else. But you can see it happening in someone else when they’re centered, when you’re centered and when something prods another part of you to come out and you behave in such a way that if you, fortunately have enough observing ego that you realize it’s happened at least afterwards, you can learn to change how you are behaving because you don’t happen to like that way of behaving.

Thal:

Thank you. That’s amazing. Um, I, I’m starting to slowly recognize when my animus is triggered. It’s pretty ugly. [laugh]

Adrian:

You mentioned, um, for females it might actually be easier in today’s society to be more whole. Um, can you expand on that a little bit? I’m actually curious, so, um, how, how is it possibly more challenging for males growing up in patriarchy type of a culture?

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

It’s because of the issues of power. And it being part of a culture. Um, I mean basically though the women’s movement and the education of women have made many parts of the world much more egalitarian in what a woman can aspire to and accomplish. This is fairly new and new on the other side that the gender with power, it has been men and so that’s been patriarchal. Well patriarchy is hierarchical and it’s a a sense of dominance. Who you have power over. It means that if you’re young and new at any of this and a guy, if there’s any part of you that is what has been suppressed in somebody higher up and you are showing what he sacrificed or judged badly and squashed in himself, he’s going to squash it in you too. And so the diversity within a person gets acted on by the family who can’t look at it and only likes certain qualities and culture says, you know if you, if you meet the stereotype, if you’re a boy who is naturally aggressive, who is extroverted, like this is an extrovert culture. So if you introduce a new ball or a game to five year old, six year old, eight year old little boys, it’s the extroverted kid who goes right in, wants to learn about it and the introverted boy. So he’s on the sidelines and watches and, and he’s nudged, he said, oh, what’s the matter with you? Why don’t you go in and play? His natural tendency and for the girl too is “I want to see what the rules are. I want to understand the game and I also want to figure it out by watching whether I want to even play the game.” But that is not acceptable in an extroverted culture when if you are there, if you wave your hand, “I’ll play, I’ll play, I’ll play!” and you go in and you play well and most of the games are pretty competitive and you do well then you really are a solid guy who’s gotten a lot of accolades for being an aggressive little guy and then the quiet guy who was taking it in and all doesn’t really see it. It’s like “what’s the matter? Are you shy?” Being shy is not a very positive word and yet the introvert has to be able to have some time out and time in in order to develop that side. So that’s some of the ideas of…

Thal:

it’s interesting when you, when you talk about the, you know, extroverted, introverted, and again, going back to the young boy and the young girl, I know I was brought up in a very patriarchal culture in the Middle East in the 80s. And I used to love to play soccer and I got into so much trouble because of that. And now that I’m a mom and my son is, I have a son, I tried to get him into soccer, but he just didn’t like it. He really refused and I kept trying for a good three years and he just does not like it. So..

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

Well you’re starting early to, to realize that, that what, what parents seem to want to do is to have their child be able to do those things.

Thal: Yes, absolutely.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

It was a child and you’ve got a who has a sense of himself.

Thal:

Exactly. Yes, yes, yes, absolutely. What you had mentioned earlier too, the whole unlived life is really what started my inner journey and reading… Um, uh, I think it’s, I can’t remember his name, but reading a book on, on the shadow and parents carrying the unlived life and the children carrying that weight, um, really woke me up. Um, so… I don’t even know if I have a question around that, but you know, just hearing your thoughts is amazing. Really.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

Yeah. The writing side of my life. Uh, yeah. Well they actually began with the Tao of Psychology: Synchronicity and the Self, but the book after that called Goddesses in Everywoman and Gods in Everyman that followed were the ones that made it possible for somebody to read about and relate to a particular pattern which had happens to have a Greek God or Goddess name. And then there is an insight like “oh, this is why I’ve had so much trouble with my father or my mother or why I am who I am” and, and the idea of valuing who you are and not accepting the other choice, which is to conform to what it is your parents wanted you to do. Up to a point. It actually is adaptable to conform up to a point. But then it’s like you get to Midlife, you’ve lived out the life you’re suppose to.. you see, you individuate earlier if you don’t manage to do it just right the way your family wanted you to do. If you happen to be the archetype or the psychological type that fits the pattern in your first half of life, everybody says good for you, good for you. You know, and, and it’s easy. Except that you get to midlife and the sense is “is this all there is? Okay, you know, I got my education, I’ve got a good job, I got married and got kids. Is this all there is because I feel empty inside and this is why Jungian work is often second half of life work. It’s because there is a whole unlived out part. But then if you are nonconforming, you couldn’t be the boy your father wanted you to be or the girl your mother or father wanted you to be like you were introverted in an extroverted family. I remember working with a, uh, a young woman who was quite herself introverted and she was in this large extroverted Italian family and it was pretty difficult to be her.

Thal:

Hmm.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

Or if you, if you, uh, are interested in things, your, your, your family is all into sports and corporate advancement and you are into the arts, uh, well in certain families that’s okay. But in other families you drop it, you don’t follow and you don’t do that which you would naturally gravitate to and.. Or you fight to do it. And when you fly to do what you start to individuate early. If you cannot conform which many gay boys have found true, they could not confirm. They would have liked to have conformed. Some of them managed fairly well to conform, but if they didn’t conform just to be who they were and have other people pick up on it meant that they were bullied, meant that they felt terrible about themselves. Except that now the environment is changing. It’s like for women in the 70s, for the first time there was uh, uh, the, the first woman’s was second women’s movement really first women’s movement was 1848 with the, when there was a whole issue about voting, but it was, it really in the late sixties and seventies, when the women’s movement that we know of people like Gloria Steinem coming in and seeing and expressing and then opening the doors for women to do, uh, what has been unacceptable before you could do now?

Thal:

Hmm.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

So the, the world has in, in in many places is a bigger world where we can grow into more of who we are and we can make more mistakes too. This is what happens to people also, when you have choice, you want, you can make mistakes or not. Maybe they were just, I like to use the labyrinth as a model for the path, not, not a straight line. And in the labyrinth you think you’re moving towards your goal and then, oops, there’s a u-turn. There was a block, there was a pain, there was a loss. Well, you’re still on the path and what will come next keep shaping you.

Thal:

These are very important things to, to um, listen to, especially for our generation because we’ve been brought up to just, you know, everything is so goal oriented. Um, once we are on the path, well, when am I going to become enlightened or when am I going to know myself better? Um, so keeping that in mind is, is very important.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

Well, it’s important to remember, uh, when you’ve had it… it’s like if you can, if you can hold on to the best of each of the stages you’ve gone through, you know, you, you’d start out holding onto the kid self that had a sense of wonder, you’re going to hold onto wonder and take in a new experience or a person or something with a sense of wonder. And then you go into adolescence where were there really did a lot of idealism in adolescence. Can you hold on to that? Can, the maturity that comes later and the wisdom that comes along the way. The whole integrated person has an inner child, an inner adolescent, an inner masculine, an inner feminine, an inner wise person, a connection with divinity, however you define it. And with it, with that part of divinity, you have a sense… You have a sense of soulfulness in yourself. You have a deep sense that you matter of some level, there is something called grace. There’s something called the divinity. There’s something called mysticism that you have experienced and you have been blessed and all you can do is say thank you. And as soon as you have a sense of gratitude, of privilege that I, I now see that, you know, relative to say that the other kids in my family, or when you meet people who are disadvantaged and you start to realize that you’ve been privileged, you had no reason to feel superior, you have more reason to have gratitude. This starts to be soul shaping as well. And it could be that the whole work we have if we come into this world as a soul, and I think we do, I think we are spiritual beings on a human path rather than human beings who may or may not go on a spiritual path. So we come into the world as a spiritual being in a helpless little baby body into our version of dysfunctional family, in our version of dysfunctional society. And somehow this life that goes by so fast must be a major, major opportunity to grow soulfully to make a difference to others, to do something that makes you feel that you are doing what you came for and that sense of right rightness when you are doing something that you know is being true to who you are inside that is that you can’t, it isn’t a sustained thing, but you dip into it and you feel, oh this is who I am. This is what I came for. I am living my own soul journey. Which if you talked to Joseph Campbell in a way you’re living at personal myth and you are being true to it. And that’s a shorthand way of saying what individuation is about. Jung uses so many technically sounding words like individuation, anima and animus but underneath it all is such a deep evaluation of what it’s like to be human. And the opportunity for you have to be human, maybe, especially now, it’s the responsibilities of being human. I think about how I went through the nuclear stuff, uh, earlier when, when, when it seemed like people were right on the verge of pushing the button. Well, there are a lot more nuclear weapons in the world now than then, but now we’re looking at the environmental crisis, which could it end it for us as well. And so if you come into the world as a human being during a time of crisis, the responsibilities or the opportunities to make a difference are much greater. And for now, to be a woman at this time in history is both an opportunity and a responsibility. Like my major activism is to support feminism within the United Nations to have a fifth women’s world conference, and I now have a sense that it, that it will not, not be sponsored necessarily at all by the UN, but they will come into it, but it will be created in India in 2022. So I’ve had these buttons saying five WCW India 2022, because when you bring women together who have Artemis, the sisterhood architect as part of who they are, and we have the technical ability to communicate by all kinds of devices, we could have a, the rising up of a quality of feminism that feels like siblings with men, because this is Artemis also not patriarchal, but brothers and sister. Cause Artemis was the firstborn of twins. Apollo was her twin brother. And what she went in, her mythology she was concerned about she came to the aid of her mother. She came to the aid of children, um, and she did develop your own skills with a bow and arrow plus a sense of, Goddess of the moon means that there’s an element of mysticism. There is an enormous mystical element in nature if you tune into it. So I think that this, I would love it to see that, see more and more Artemis rising and so I’m doing that at the moment too.

Thal:

Amazing.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

Activism is soul work when you’re doing it from a space in which it’s your journey and you’re doing, helping others.

Adrian:

That’s so beautiful. We just had the honour of chatting with Andrew Harvey last week and you know, he talks about sacred activism. So as you’re saying this, you know, it feels like there’s such a hunger right now. Um, I think for this type of energy to emerge in larger numbers and also for, for, for the elders, right? For, for the young seekers to connect with elders such as yourself and to make sure that there’s wisdom isn’t lost, you know, that we don’t have a disconnect with, you know, just this lineage of, um, of experience and wisdom that’s been passed down, uh, just to, to bring things to an end. Is there, is there anything you’d like to share as sort of last words, um, for, for the next generation, you know, of, of activists and seekers and, um, and, and, and curious souls?

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

Well, yes. In the last year I started signing off on my emails with “love, hope, perseverance, trust and gratitude”. And I think as it is, we kind of a mantra. Love then hope are certainly obvious energies. Perseverance seems to be required to do anything that really matters to you. To become a doctor and a Jungian Analyst or psychiatrist. I mean it took a lot of persevering through subjects that were hard or not interesting. Again, the Artemis idea that you have, if you could aim at a target that is far off, but if it’s your target and you aim for it, can you tolerate what it takes to have setbacks, to have to do hard work. So perseverance and then trust is much more in the spiritual world. It’s the word that means that you trust that it matters what you do with your one wild and precious life. You trust that there is a world of invisible spirits that you can call upon that support you, through some difficulties you can count on prayer, you can count on a sense that there is a divinity that has…that you have access to. Even if you don’t know very much about what it is that it doesn’t mean, it doesn’t exist. Oh, are there people that have died? Then the whole tradition of the other side, if there are there, what are they? Angels? Maybe they’re angels, but then there’s this whole world is cares about what we do here too. That is trust. And the last thing is the motivation that can make us appreciate what we have, and that’s gratitude.

Thal:

Thank you so much. That’s so beautiful to hear. Thank you.

Adrian:

Yeah. With gratitude. Thank you.

Jean Shinoda Bolen:

Thank you. Namaste.